Britney Spears & Church Burnout
I came across this thought provoking post over on a blog that goes by the name of nakedpastor.com The idea behind the name is that the pastor is not hiding anything. It’s kind of out there, but he writes some good stuff. Anyway, he wrote a post not too long ago on the whole Britney Spears saga and made some correlations to the church. I’ve posted it here for your consideration:
What’s happening to Britney Spears has me thinking about how we treat the stars in our own communities. I think Britney is more of a victim of our culture than the cause of her own demise. I’ve seen this over and over again in my own life and in the lives of others in churches. This is roughly what happens:
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- She shows that she’s gifted.
- She is invited to take responsibility as an opportunity to exercise or share this gift.
- She, usually being young in years or in the faith, gladly takes it on because she can use her gift and there’s some gratification in her gift being recognized.
- She is rewarded with praise, admiration, adoration, recognition, fame and sometimes money.
- With rewards and responsibility comes more responsibility, so this person is given more to do or the level of responsibility is increased. They become, necessarily, committed with verbal, written or unspoken expectations or contracts.
- Because this person was too young or immature to recognize her own boundaries or endurance and because she was unable or unwilling to say “No!”, they start to show signs of wear and tear.
- In the industry, this is met with more praise and the ethic of hard work paying off is preached, as well as the old idea that this is the cost of responsibility. Our curiosity into her humanness and vulnerability elevates her even further in our own eyes. In the church, this wear and tear is met with more prayer, encouragement, and servant-theology, service and sacrifice is preached even harder.
- Over time she begins to crack. This is evidenced by increased absences, embarrassing mistakes, illness, sloppiness, outspokenness and surprising behavior.
- This is met with either pity or outright condemnation. Correction is attempted. But we still expect her to produce and perform better than she ever has before.
- Finally, she crashes and burns. She totally loses it.
- The general reaction is scorn and blame. She is perceived and treated as though she is the scum of the earth because it is her own fault. She asked for it!
I see this with Britney. I see this is the church. All the time. These people are seen as failures, burn-outs, has-beens, dead wood… whatever. And it makes me sick because we are the ones who created them. I can’t see us stopping it either because we love to be entertained and the show must go on.
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I think we’ve done some of this at The Grove. As a young church, we wanted everyone to get involved and give them a place. Unfortunately, I think we had some people in positions that weren’t best suited for, but because they are hard workers, they did the job well. You can then see the cycle as it is described in #3 forward. I think we’re finally at a place where we have recognized this and are dealing with it through the identification of spiritual gifts. When we do it right…God’s way…it works. Sadly, many of us, me included, can be slow learners.






















1 Comment
Tammy
Thursday, 1st May 2008 at 8:36 am
Britney Spears & Church… never would have put those two together on my own!
But I see the truth in this post. Our society is always pushing for the best and brightest, starting at a very young age. You have to get your child into the PREMIERE preschool, the top notch school district, the best colleges, high profile careers. Very few people set out with the goal of their child becoming a blue collar worker. (Or at least, those people aren’t very vocal about it.) And absolutely this happens in church. I mean, its church! Everyone is supposed to be perfect, right?! We don’t have faults, we don’t make mistakes… do we?!
And it gets worse when we step outside the congregation. People who aren’t regularly a part of the church have even higher expectations for those of us who are involved. It is a LOT of pressure! It is only compounded when we are serving in areas where we aren’t really supposed to be serving. We have to lift one another in prayer. We have to surround our leadership, cover them in prayer. We have to love one another, faults and all, and accept each other’s limitations. We need to recognize when someone is close to burning out, step in, and find a way to help relieve some of that pressure. Of course, its easy to type these words, but putting it into action takes the whole church, in one mind, coming together and working as a team! We each have a place on the team. Once we find it, nothing can stand in our way!!
GO TEAM!!!
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